A relationship counselling & psychotherapy practice in Richmond-upon-Thames borough.
Although I have been in private psychotherapy practice for some years (utilising the Parent-Adult-Child model of Transactional Analysis psychotherapy) in 2014 I began re-skilling in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) - a vital and practical, science-led therapy, which is more commonly used by psychologists, but virtually unknown to psychotherapists. I was seeking an authentic, cohesive therapy process, that was less reactive and backward looking - and more proactive and forward focused.
I invite you to explore your life values - what you’d like to stand up for in life; what you’d like to be known or remembered for. When you know (and practice) what you really stand for - you become unshakeable. Your true values will shape everything you do and the quality of your relationships - and we will keep returning to them throughout our sessions together.
I will support you to work towards clearly defined, meaningful goals - those which are underpinned by your values. They may be small or large, every-day management or life enhancing. We will break them down into achievable, bite size pieces.
It is important to separate You from your difficult thoughts - so we will use Mindfulness Meditation and other exercises to help you develop greater in-the-moment awareness of you-in-relationship with yourself and others. Acceptance of what’s out of your control, actually helps you become more emotionally flexible. The need to grasp-at and control (what we can’t) washes away like a leaf floating downstream, and, in our sessions, you will begin to actively take command of what is within your control - and make a real difference.
I blend ACT with my original training and experience in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy. Some TA theories and tools really support the “defusion” (separating You from your thoughts) part of the ACT process – and bring greater depth to the therapy.
I do not offer NLP, as it does not sit well with my values.
However, ACT grew out of CBT and so, by default, I offer CBT (though not the old Aaron Beck version, which implies that if we get-rid-of or control our thought processes we will be ok. Evidence shows that this method cannot be sustained and what we have "excluded" will come back bigger, badder later on).
I believe in equality between therapist and client - and in authentic discussion, rather than vacuous nodding, placating statements or psycho-babble. I too have experienced some of the same issues my clients bring and have considerable empathy for the positions we find ourselves in.
Trained in both secular and Buddhist Mindfulness Meditation - as part of our counselling/psychotherapy sessions together, I will invite you to try some short, here-and-now meditations. There is no requirement to be religious or have have any belief, whatsoever, to be mindful (and I do not undertake the type of mindfulness practice as prescribed in Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy MBCT or Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction MBSR programmes - as I find some of their techniques prescriptive, instructional and intrusive).
I have regular confidential clinical supervision with David Tidsall (PTSTA; TA psychotherapist)
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